As family comes together and students unwind from semester stresses, what do college students or their parents want most?
What I hear from clients are things like time with family, no stress from studying, and time off from classes to enjoy friends and fun. The joy of home cooked meals or sharing of gifts and social time are welcome relief from the hectic days of November and December. Oh the fun to be had by one and all!
Sometimes unsaid are the wonderings about confronting harsh realities when grades arrive or a student’s loss of motivation for college arrive home too. Tough conversations or arguing may ensue. Or silence to avoid talking about goals not being realized lingers after the holiday fun subsides.
One theme that arises from my client sessions: (more in my next post!)
“I hate studying. It’s so boring. I don’t even know why I’m going to school. I don’t know what I want to do for a job after college anyway.”
I know what it’s like to be excited about a major, even when I had a scholarship for it. Teaching was the field for me! And then…I realized after a few semesters that elementary education wasn’t for me. Feeling like I was disappointing my parents, I went the direction my father thought I should go. I got a job and worked my way up in a finance office and other businesses. Over time, with a number of positions that were “fine” but not great, I was coached around the idea that I was just “working” and not thriving. Traditional business environments are not my natural comfort zone. Work was drudgery and waiting for my 15 minute break or lunch.
Now, over many years of living and learning, I know what makes my heart sing. Teaching and coaching others to live and learn “on purpose” is my joy! My years of various career fields and painful transitions yield both insights and empathy for the journey of others. I now know what it takes to figure out one’s calling and make it a reality.
If you are a parent wondering what to do about your son or daughter who is not doing well in school or feeling disconnected from their college experience, then consider contacting Coach Pam. The future is brighter with Lightvision Coaching.
NEXT post: Theme 2 – “I study and study and study. My grades just don’t get better. I guess college isn’t my thing.”